basically my life can be summed up in alternating periods of Linda Belcher’s “Alriiiiight!” and Bob Belcher’s “Oh my god”
He makes me feel so connected and safe and loved, and I don’t think I’m ever gonna find someone else who’s gonna make me feel like that.
If you ever, ever feel you are nothing, you are perfect to me
I’M DOING IT
is every time my friend gets stop to be told off by some white person, very rudely, how his tattoo of a dreamcatcher is racist and insensitive to the Native American people and should removed/apologize/be ashamed.
He is Native American and they confuse him for Mexican every time, and he just states “But I got this at the reservation I lived in for 15 YEARS.” and proceeds to falsely place a curse of his ancestors on them.
when you tell your parents something funny and they turn it into a lecture
Dipper Pines: The boy with the short pants
"Hi! I like shorts! They’re comfortable and easy to wear!"
What clothes aren’t easy to wear?
thigh-highs without garterbelts.
fun fact: the first time I sucked a dick, the guy was really impressed and when I told him it was my first time he was really surprised so I explained “I read too much homoerotic fanfiction” and he just looked at me and said “please keep reading that shit”
Sometimes recovery is waking up early to write in coffee shops and practicing yoga and eating lots of fruit and chocolate and sometimes it’s staying in bed all day and hiding from the world until you can stop crying. All of this is okay. What’s important is that you take care of yourself no matter what kind of day you’re having.
I’ll respect your opinion as long as your opinion doesn’t disrespect my existence.
THIS PHRASE SHOULD BE WRITTEN EVERYWHERE AROUND THE WORLD
Oh, Good Lord.
Even if Elsa was fantastically written, as you’ve made abundantly clear you don’t feel she is.
There’s still no obligation for people with depression and/or anxiety to like her because sick people are not some kind of universal hivemind. If people like anon would stop referring to the chronically and mentally ill like we are the Borg and obligated to enjoy certain things and react in a certain way because of our status as sick people, that would be nice and, not to mention, WAY less ableist.
You took the words right out my mouth dear
We need representation. Anxiety, depression, other mental illnesses, asexuality, bisexuality, aromantic, transgender, Pagans, Islams, women, people with skin of every color and people from every culture. We need representation.
However, we do not have to identify with someone because they share traits we have. Great. The movie briefly and without naming it touched on anxiety. That doesn’t mean we have to love the movie or the character. Sometimes it even means being more upset because of cases like this where it feels like people are tossing a bone. ”There you have your character with anxiety now shut up.”
For the record I am bipolar and have panic attacks and I don’t like Frozen/Elsa either. I don’t hate her, but I don’t love her or care about the movie.
Someone else with diagnosed depression and anxiety chiming in: I once responded to an ask with an in-depth explanation on why Elsa’s “representation” of particular mental illnesses bothered me, and I’m going to drop it here because I really like this discussion happening, and I want to add all of it to the FCMP for future reference.
Let me break this down for you anon.
Elsa is boring. And this is coming from someone who likes her. I mean she’s pretty and has ice powers but that is it. She doesn’t really do anything. All she does she whine, cry and turn her back on people. She has no has idea what she is doing and doesn’t even attempt to try and unfreeze her home. How can I relate to her?
Elsa is a coward, a cry baby and a dull character. I want to relate to her but I can’t.
Let me start off with this: I like Elsa. As much as I criticize this movie, she is hands-down awesome, despite the shade that I am about to throw regarding certain flaws. Not her flaws, no. Flaws in the writing itself. I am not attacking Elsa in this post. I am criticizing those who wrote the script for Frozen and anyone involved in writing Elsa and her character development.
I can agree with people who find “Let It Go” empowering, when it’s completely removed from the context of the movie. If you completely sever all the song’s connections to depression, anxiety, and Elsa’s character development, sure, the song can certainly be empowering. But the song’s meaning and moral message within the context of Elsa’s character is in mine and many other’s opinions not empowering in the slightest. If anything, we think some of the lyrics are promoting something harmful to people who suffer from depression and anxiety: “You can suddenly overcome more than a decade’s worth of depression, anxiety, and self-loathing with a happy song. Run away from your responsibilities, they don’t matter anymore. Make yourself believe that no one else matters. Only you matter. Leave your family and home behind and never take responsibility for your actions. Isolate yourself.”
The thing is, and this is important: a song like this isn’t inherently bad. I repeat, A SONG LIKE THIS ISN’T INHERENTLY BAD! The problem only arises when there is no follow-up to the song’s message, not in the form of a reprise or even direct words from Elsa, anything to tell us that within the context of the movie, “Let It Go” was more of a Denial Ballad than a Power Ballad. Evidence of it being a denial ballad, for those wondering, is that Elsa immediately reverts back to her earlier anxious, fearful, insecure behaviors in following scenes. This pretty clearly shows us that the song, in the context of Elsa’s character development, was just her being in denial of reality—which is actually a great thing! Because it makes sense. This is Elsa in the aftershock of a life-shattering event. Denial and a forced attitude of “I will be fine, actually I’m even better off!” is a completely believable reaction.
However, after Anna’s “death”, obviously Elsa no longer completely stands behind everything she believed in “Let It Go”. After that pivotal scene when Anna melts, where she understands how much Anna truly loves her, Elsa finally realizes that she can’t overcome all of her problems by denying them, or dismiss them with faux empowerment; that she isn’t better off alone, that she shouldn’t just run away from her life or “let it go”. That the cold does bother her anyway—metaphorically speaking, of course, since physically Elsa is immune to freezing temperatures.
And this is where we hit a snag, something that is one of my biggest beefs with the entire movie, and the reason I rail against Disney for their claim of depicting mental illness with Elsa, and also for blatantly neglecting something SO important in her character development.
The bolded above is never, ever addressed. There is no reprise for “Let It Go” to encapsulate the major change in Elsa’s character at the end of the movie—she is just suddenly confident instead of fearful, secure instead of insecure, happy and outgoing instead of depressed and alienating, and we as the viewers are just supposed to accept this without proper explanation or closure. In storytelling, this is completely unacceptable. There is even a trope named for it. Epiphany Therapy.
Elsa gets a single line about her changed feelings: “Love will thaw a frozen heart.” Not only does this extremely vague one-line revelation fail to address Elsa’s plethora of development or justify her drastic change in character in the last 5 minutes of the movie, it is also an extremely disgusting message to send to the audience. Because, don’t forget, there are two sides to Elsa and her powers: the literal and the representational.
In the literal, “Love will thaw” makes sense, because all it means is that 1) Elsa realizes that her love is what can melt the ice and end the eternal winter, allowing her to gain control over her powers, and 2) love is what literally defrosts Anna.
It’s the representational side, the side which the director of Frozen has outright said is canon, that makes “Love will thaw a frozen heart” a very, very disturbing message as Elsa’s last and only words regarding her sudden change in character.
Elsa canonically has depression and anxiety, and her powers also represent those as well. Thus the implication of “Love will thaw a frozen heart” as a final explanation for her change in character implies that love, particularly “true” love, can instantly cure a decade’s worth of depression, anxiety, self-loathing, and alienation.
Now, I’m not going to criticize this without also providing a possible solution.
Solution: A reprise to “Let It Go”, where Elsa realizes that she was denying reality, that family and friendship and love and connections are important, that isolation and running away from problems are harmful behaviors, and most importantly, that the battle isn’t over. She is still going to have to work hard to overcome over a decade’s worth of depression and anxiety and isolation. With Anna’s love, she now has support, which will certainly help, but Elsa acknowledges that overcoming depression and anxiety is ultimately her own battle. What would make this reprise even better is if Anna joins in and it becomes a duet (something the movie sorely lacked for these sisters), and Anna sings something to the effect of “I’ll be there to support you always, you don’t have to fight alone.” Talk about an empowering song. Not only would it properly convey to an audience how to treat those with mental illnesses (“love” is just a single part of a solution to a very, very complex and misunderstood problem), but it would also send the message to children, young adults, and even adults with depression that they shouldn’t run away, avoid their responsibilities, abandon loved ones, or in essence let their illnesses run and ultimately ruin their lives and relationships. That instead, they should fight like hell. They should involve their family members and seek support (such as therapy!) instead of shouldering everything themselves.
Another solution would be that Elsa simply talks about these things (preferably face to face with Anna) instead of singing them. It still sends the same messages as above, although a reprise would be the more powerful option.
There are probably more solutions, but I feel like this rant has gone on long enough.
As someone who has struggled all my life with clinical depression, anxiety disorders, and suffered for it, this issue is important to me. Do you think that Elsa was developed enough? Do you think that she properly represented depression and anxiety like the director of the movie intended?
If you are someone who really related to Elsa, that’s great and I support you. But I would like to know from you: don’t you think it had the potential to be so much more? That it didn’t go a far as it should have? Couldn’t this have been a great way to fight the stigma surrounding mental illnesses like depression and anxiety? Don’t forget that there are children who also suffer from depression and anxiety, and it is not just an “adult” issue. Wouldn’t a more well-developed depiction of these illnesses in Frozen have helped? It certainly wouldn’t have hurt, right?
Because we need to talk about this photo (posted here)
A girl (and judging by the guy behind her I’m assuming him too) was cosplaying as Rapunzel and was actually going around, taking photos and from what I can tell with the autograph books open, signing…